6 Simple Etiquette Tips for Navigating Rope Spaces

Starting a new hobby can be both exciting and intimidating. Shibari, like many activities, comes with its own language and set of unwritten rules. Navigating an unfamiliar environment without knowing what’s expected can be tricky. So, let’s dive into some common rope-related etiquette, according to our community.

1. Can I Interrupt?

Short answer: No.

This is one of those unspoken rules in rope spaces.

At a beginner’s jam, you may see people tying and feel tempted to start a polite conversation. Don’t. Rule 101: never interrupt people mid-tie—not even to say “thank you” or “goodbye.” Even if they appear to be casually chatting while tying, you don’t know the full context of their interaction.

If you’re unsure whether they’re available to talk, you have two choices:

• Leave them to it and do your research independently.
• Wait until they seem finished, then politely ask if it’s okay to interrupt.

While many people enjoy sharing their knowledge, don’t assume they’re always open to it. Our teachers also use the space to tie, and while they’re often happy to chat, they may be focused elsewhere, in “play” mode.

Finally, never touch a rope bottom being tied by someone else—not even to get their attention.

2. Not All Rope Is Up for Grabs

Most experienced riggers have personal rope sets and are very particular about them. We spend time conditioning our rope to our preferences, and many of us develop a deep attachment to it. Do not assume all rope in the studio is communal.

If you need rope, ask the organisers or teachers where the communal rope is kept and use that. Be sure to return it at the end of the jam.

When using communal rope, make sure to:

• Keep track of the ropes you are using. Don’t grab from a nearby pile—it might belong to someone else.
• Check the rope before tying. Communal rope gets a lot of use, so look for any signs of wear and ensure the tension is even. If you’re unsure, just stick to using it for floor work—communal ropes are not for suspension ties.

3. Navigating the Space

Every space has its own rules and norms, which are usually explained during beginner evenings or induction sessions. At Anatomie, we hold a session every Thursday at the start of the jam.

Think of yourself as a guest in someone’s home. Be a good guest by:

• Cleaning up after yourself—wipe up spills, dispose of rubbish, and wash any equipment you use.
• Respecting other guests—whether they’re tying or socialising.

When Tying:
Be mindful of your space, especially during busy sessions. Politely ask others to shift if needed. Watch your movements—if you step back to take a photo, be aware of ropes and other items on the floor, and avoid bumping into others.

When Socialising:
Avoid standing under suspension points. If you’re stepping outside, stay fully clothed and keep your voice down to avoid disturbing residential neighbours. Use “inside voices” during events to maintain a calm atmosphere.

4. Can I Take Photographs?

Photo policies vary widely between venues and events. If you’re unsure, ask an organiser. Shibari spaces are consent-focused, and photography policies reflect this.

Pro tip: Don’t assume cameras or phones are automatically allowed, and don’t assume that teachers or organisers are okay with being photographed.

In general:

• Ask organisers about the venue’s photo policies.
• If photos are allowed, always get consent from anyone in the picture.
• Blur faces or background individuals before posting online.
• Do not film teachers while they are teaching. Always check first if you’d like to take a photo during a class.

5. Don’t Suspend Unless You Know What You’re Doing

The policy on suspension varies by venue, so always check before attempting it. Some spaces have strict rules about who can suspend and what kinds of ties are permitted. For example,

• Some events may require you to complete specific courses before attempting suspension.
• Some prohibit high-risk ties, like neck rope.

At Anatomie, we ask attendees to tie within their abilities—no suspensions without explicit instruction. If we feel something is unsafe, we may ask you to stop. Similarly, if you notice something that seems unsafe, please speak to a team member.

Rules may feel arbitrary, but they are often tied to:

• Safety concerns
• Venue regulations (such as landlord policies or licensing requirements)
• The event organisers’ risk profile

6. Be kind

Shibari spaces thrive on mutual respect, consent, and shared learning. By following these guidelines, you help create a welcoming and safe environment for everyone.

If you’re ever unsure about something, just ask!